Stop Auditioning: A Kingdom Reminder for Christian Moms Navigating Dating

There’s a subtle shift that happens sometimes in dating — especially for accomplished, capable women.

A man begins to posture as the prize.

The tone becomes evaluative.

The questions feel like an interview.

And if you’re not careful, you slip into proving mode.

Explaining.

Performing.

Positioning.

Convincing.

But Scripture doesn’t say:

“She who convinces a man…”

It says:

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” — Proverbs 18:22

For busy Christian moms, especially those rebuilding after divorce, this matters deeply.

You are not desperate.

You are not lacking.

You are not trying to be chosen.

You are already chosen by God.

The man God has for you won’t require you to audition.

He will recognize what he has found.

In this post, we’ll talk about:

• Why “pick-me” energy is rooted in insecurity

• How to maintain dignity in early conversations

• Red flags disguised as confidence

• How to date from rest, not performance